When you first start dating someone new, everything is usually sunshine and butterflies!
You just “click” with each other, there is no drama, and you can’t spend enough time together. You’re in LOVE!
But there is a saying that says, “Love is just deaf, dumb, blind, and stupid.”
In other words, love has a way of clouding your judgement if you’re not careful!
There can be little red flags that pop up in the beginning that you totally miss!
If you want to walk into a relationship with your eyes wide open, here are 10 common red flags not to ignore when dating someone new!
1.) YOU TEXT A LOT, BUT YOU RARELY SEE EACH OTHER IN PERSON
This is called COMMITMENT ISSUES!
If you are “kinda dating” someone, but you mostly text, this is a red flag!
Most likely, this person loves the attention you’re giving them, but they just don’t want to commit to a real-life relationship.
If you almost make plans, but they keep finding an excuse to NOT make it, it’s time to walk away.
They’re not worth your valuable time.
2.) YOU CATCH THEM BEING DISHONEST EARLY ON
It doesn’t matter how big or how small, did you catch them in lie?
Did they look like their picture online? Is their resume embellished? Did they really accomplish what they told you on your first date?
If they’re willing to tell you little “white lies” or “exaggerations” in the beginning of your relationships, this bad habit will get worse and worse as your relationship progresses!
Don’t get in too deep with a chronic liar.
3.) THEY DON’T ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT YOU
If they never ask questions about your life, but always talk about themselves, you aren’t dating someone who is “life partner” quality.
Chances are, they aren’t planning on a long-term relationship with you OR they are incredibly self-obsessed.
4.) THEY ARE ARE DOWNRIGHT JEALOUS
There is a healthy amount of jealousy in every relationship.
But when jealousy goes over-board, things can get toxic very quickly!
Does your new-found romantic interest start asking where you are or telling you what you can or can’t do?
Do they get upset when you don’t share certain information with them or when you don’t spend as much time with them as they’d like?
You need to confront this behavior immediately!
If they see nothing wrong with their controlling behavior, you probably need to get out.
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5.) THEY ARE MOVING THINGS VERY QUICKLY
If someone is moving your relationship a lot quicker than you’re comfortable with, YOU need to pump the brakes!
Are they talking about your future together or telling everyone you have a crazy connection? Do they throw out the “forever” word and start talking about taking things to the next base?
RED FLAG! SLOW DOWN!
Although they may be sincerely in love with you, there is also a big chance that they are a con-artist.
Don’t let someone’s excess attention and verbalized intentions make you do something that you KNOW isn’t good for you.
Take things slow!
6.) THEY MAKE EXCUSES LIKE “I DIDN’T SEE YOUR TEXT!”
OK, are we in high-school still? This excuse is LAME!
Maybe they didn’t see your text or get your voicemail or get your social media message!
But what if your message says “Read” and they say, “I never saw it!”
If this excuse is used several times in a row, they probably aren’t “The One”!
If they want to be with you, they will see your texts and they will respond!
Not seeing a text is usually a rare occurrence in a loving, committed relationship.
7.) THEY ARE DISRESPECTFUL TO PEOPLE AROUND THEM
Were they really rude to the waitress on your date? Did they get angry at the customer service rep on the phone? Do they talk down to people who are in customer-service roles?
This shows that they have a BULLY MENTALITY!
For some pathetic reason, it makes them feel superior when they are rude to someone who is in a difficult position to defend themselves.
You do NOT want to date someone with this problem.
Because some day, you will be the target of this pathetic behavior.
8.) THEY WORK ALL THE TIME
This can be a good thing or a bad thing.
If you are both working towards a financial or business goal, and you are on the same page about over-time work hours, then you might be the perfect team!
But if you are starved for some “alone time” with them, and they are never around to be with you, then you might be in the wrong relationship.
If YOU aren’t part of their dream and their dedication belongs to their job, you may want to move on.
To create a lasting relationship, you both need to be agree on what a healthy work/life balance looks like.
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9.) THEY ARE DOWNRIGHT LAZY
They do the bare minimum in life and in your relationship!
Do they talk big, but accomplish little? Or do they give up on everything they try? Perhaps they spend their spare time gaming?
If you are dating someone with a lack of work ethic, you may end up being their meal ticket!
If you have goals and a dream for your life, don’t “hitch your wagon” to someone who is going nowhere fast! They will hold you back and you will grow to resent them.
Even if you care for them, sit back and evaluate if you really have anything in common.
If they don’t acknowledge their laziness and work on it, you may need to move on.
10.) THEY DON’T INITIATE GETTING TOGETHER
You feel like all the “dating” and “hanging out” planning is on YOU!
That isn’t how a relationship works! It’s a two-way street!
Either they are completely lazy, too shy, or they are taking you for granted.
If you’re doing all the leg-work in your relationship, something needs to change ASAP!
Have a conversation with your new “love interest” and let them know how you feel.
Chances are, they aren’t as interested in a long-term relationship as you think they are. Or they are downright lazy!
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