In today’s world, it may appear that social etiquette and strict manners are not as important as they once were.
But this is not true! Rules of etiquette still play a serious role in creating a lasting impression of yourself.
Your outward appearance and internal self-confidence plays a big roll in being classy (we covered it in this article). But you also need to develop a basic skill-set for knowing what is appropriate in in every social situation.
These etiquette rules aren’t difficult! They are actually quite simple – and yet, they play a major roll in how others view you (and how you view yourself).
Below are 15 rules of etiquette you need to know to become a high-class lady!
1.) Don’t talk about yourself too much. Show interest in others!
When having a conversation with someone, ask questions and show interest in them!
Don’t be that person who dominates every conversation.
This doesn’t always mean that you are completely self-absorbed. Many people talk too much when they are nervous or feel out of place.
A great way to ease nerves (while looking gracious and classy) is to stop talking, ask questions about them, and show genuine interest in the stories that they are telling.
People can tell when you are waiting for them to finish talking, so that you can answer them or talk about yourself.
Even if you are just trying to be more conversational, this makes you look insincere. (Not classy)
Even if you are a pro on the topic being discussed, allow everyone’s voice to be heard. Very few people want to be around a person who makes them feel trapped in a conversation. All they can think is, “I need to get out!”
Most people love to talk about themselves – so indulge them!
When you show a genuine interest in someone, that is a very likable and highly classy quality!
2.) Never Be Late!
The phrase “Fashionably late!” is often used in situations where people have the habit of not being punctual.
Unfortunately, there is nothing fashionable about it. It is actually rude to your hosts or guests.
Be a person of your word – and that means that you need to show up on time.
If you are supposed to meet at 7:00, be there at 6:45. It is very classy to be prompt and on time.
If the rare occasion does happen where you are late, text or call ahead to let them know that you are running a few minutes behind.
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3.) Smile and say “thank-you”
Whether it is your waiter, Uber driver, cashier, airport staff, someone holding a door for you, delivery driver, or anyone who helped you in any way – say “Thank-you!”
On top of that, a smile can convey a personable warmth and confidence.
This doesn’t make you a weak, insincere people-pleaser!
It shows that you notice people and that you are grateful for the help/assistance that they give to you.
No one is every too important or too wealthy to be kind and grateful to the people they encounter day-to-day.
Being kind is the epitome of being classy!
4.) Put the cellphone away and don’t touch it
It doesn’t matter what seems “normal” in today’s society, being on your phone when you are in a social setting is RUDE!
If you allow “keeping your phone out” to become a habit, you will unconsciously unlock & start scrolling without even realizing it.
If you get a text while they are talking and turn your attention to your phone (even just a quick glance), you are letting them know that your cellphone is more important than them.
Put your phone away and give 100% of your attention to the people you are talking to.
This way, you are focusing all your energy on the conversation – something that will make you a much more high-class lady!
If you absolutely must take a call (or text someone), excuse yourself from the table (or conversation) and take care of the distraction. If the setting is casual, you can text or call in the room. If it is at a restaurant or a classier event, step outside or into another room.
5.) Don’t Talk With Food In Your Mouth
We have all had someone ask us a question just after we took a mouthful of food!
What do you do?
Never tuck the food into your cheek and start talking.
It isn’t your fault that they asked the question while you were eating!
Even if it is a bit awkward, always finish your bite of food before speaking.
6.) Walk Confidently and Sit Up Straight
Keep your back straight and your shoulders back.
When you walk tall and confidently, people assume that you are prepared and confident.
In turn, you will feel more empowered and self-assured internally.
When you slouch, you are minimizing your body, appearing uncertain and unconfident.
Confidence is very classy!
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7.) Be a Person of Your Word
You must keep your promises!
Don’t commit to do something that you don’t have time for or don’t feel right about!
When necessary, saying, “No” is empowering. Don’t be a push-over!
If you are asked to do something and you don’t want to do it, say “No. I am unable to do that!”
Don’t make promises that you don’t intend to keep or that you don’t want to fulfill just to appease someone in the moment. Again, you don’t need to explain yourself. Whatever you do, be honest and dependable.
8.) When in doubt, wear a dress!
A cute dress is appropriate for all occasion!
Afternoon picnic, wedding date, get-together with friends, reunion, work party, etc.
If you aren’t sure how dressy the occasion will be, pack a pair of heels and sandals. (You can dress the outfit up or down)
9.) Know How To Place Your Silverware
It doesn’t matter if you are eating at a 5-star restaurant, Thanksgiving with family, or a casual work event – know what to do with your silverware.
There are many different signals that you can make with your silverware. (You don’t need to know them all unless you’re the Queen of England.)
Above are the two most-used silverware signals!
When you want to set down your silverware to talk or to excuse yourself from the table for a brief moment, you will use the “Resting Position”.
When you are finished with your food, you will place the silverware together in the 4:00 & 10:00 “Finished Position”.
These two silverware positions are simple, but using them gives you a subtle air of grace and class.
10.) Remember and Use People’s Names
People love to hear their own names!
A person’s name is a part of who they are. When you remember someone and use their name, it lets them know that they are memorable and that they have your attention. It builds an automatic connection.
Have you ever listened to a gifted people-person talk to a group of guests!
They almost always know the power of using someone’s name. “So, Jennifer, what brings you here?” “Dave, how long have you and your family lived in town?”
Don’t be afraid to ask a person their name a second time if you forget it right after you hear it. Hearing a name a second time can be a valuable tactic to remembering it the next time you see them.
When you greet someone, use their name. Occasionally, during your conversation, also use their name. And when you say goodbye, use their name again.
Just be careful not do over-do it. It can come across as annoying and over-bearing.
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11.) Stay Positive and Gracious
When you hear people talking behind someone else’s back, don’t join in on the conversation!
When asked about something negative or difficult, choose to keep the conversation positive and uplifting.
And if someone says something rude or off-putting, respond in a classy and gracious manner.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t have a bad day or complain about something. And it certainly doesn’t mean that you should allow people to take advantage and mistreat you!
Staying calm and collected keeps YOU in control! Put up healthy boundaries with people who don’t value or respect you.
You control your response and the words that come out of your mouth. Keep it classy.
Side Note: Sometimes, kicking butt is the necessary thing to do. 🙂
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