If you are in a loving relationship, you need to consistently work to keep the love alive.
And NO, this work doesn’t have to be difficult or tedious.
It’s all about small gestures of genuine, heartfelt love for “your person”.
In this case, we are talking about your man!
First of all, you should both take “The 5 Love Languages Test“!
Everyone receives love differently, so this test is a great place to start. Based off of your man’s test results, pick a few of the suggestions listed below.
Below are 15 gestures that make men feel loved!
1.) Cook his favorite food – just because
We’ve all heard the saying, “A way to a man’s heart is through his stomach!”
Very few men will disagree with this. Or they’ll admit that it is a huge BONUS if they’re partner can cook!
If he loves Oreo cookie balls or homemade lasagna, indulge him!
Every once in a while, surprise him with his favorite meal or dessert.
It’s a nice way to let him know that you were thinking about him and his taste-buds. 🙂
2.) Compliment Him In Front of Other people
Nothing cuts a man to his core more than YOU talking about him behind his back and disclosing private details about him to others.
This is disrespectful and a great way to ruin the happiness of your relationship.
ON THE OTHER HAND, complimenting him in front of other people has the opposite affect!
Men LOVE respect. And the place he wants it the most is from you!
Build him up to his face and behind his back. Let everyone know what an amazing man you are married to.
Tell his friends and family that he is an amazing friend, husband, and father – with details! (Just don’t be too ooey-gooey)
3.) Plan a date that is all about him
Completely make your date night (or date day) about him.
Go to his favorite restaurant and then do an activity that he loves.
Beforehand, maybe pack a few of his favorite candies or snacks to eat along the way.
Whatever you do that evening, make him feel 100% special!
4.) Let Him Know That You’re Attracted To Him – Often
Men get self-conscious about their looks too!
They want to know that you are still attracted to them!
Say things like, “Ow ow! Babe, you look amazing in that shirt!” or “I absolutely love your smile! You are HANDSOME!”
Your man needs to know that you still think he is a total HUNK – just like when you first met.
5.) Let Him Know You See His Efforts
Yes, you both work hard inside and outside your home!
But let him know that you see his efforts and you are grateful for all the work that he does.
Thank him for taking the garbage out!
Kiss him when he empties the dish washer!
Take him out a cool drink and smack his butt when he is mowing the lawn!
Not only is this a loving gesture, but it is also a great way to encourage him!
6.) Encourage Him To Have a “Day With The Boys”
Let him know that he NEEDS a day out with his guy friends.
Or maybe encourage him to invite them over to your home and make/pick up some food for them!
Spending time apart with other people is actually a very healthy part of your relationship!
It not only eases tension and boredom, it is also great for your mental health.
He will LOVE that you are not trying to change him and that you are completely OK if he enjoys himself away from you.
7.) Put Your Phone Down and Greet Him
…every single day.
When you see each other at the end of a work day, make your greetings meaningful!
Try not to immediately say something negative about your day or keep scrolling on your phone.
Hug and kiss each other and take a moment to appreciate having a special human being in your life.
BE PRESENT when you see each other. It will make “seeing each other” a special part of your day.
8.) Surprise Him With A Gift At Work
Whether you personally deliver it or have someone else drop it off, everyone loves a good surprise at work!
If you have a problem coming up with an idea, just pop on over to “the internet” and google gift delivery ideas.
Not only will it make him feel special, it also announces to everyone at his workplace that THEY ARE LOVED by their partner.
9.) Sit Down and Agree on a Money Strategy
This gesture is all about UNITY and creating a long-term relationship plan.
Remember, money is still one of the top reasons for divorce.
Whether you and your partner have combined finances or not, you want to be on the same page about this important aspect of your relationship.
If one of you is a major saver and the other a spender, you will BOTH need to compromise.
You cannot expect someone to 100% adopt your money strategy. You are two people coming into a relationship with different expectations.
If necessary, get a financial adviser and agree on a strategy that you are both committed to sticking to.
10.) Let Him Have His Guilty Pleasure
No, this is not talking about something secretive, inappropriate, or damaging to your relationship!
We are referring to that one thing that they have always loved, but you really hate!
Does he have a favorite pastime that isn’t damaging to your relationship, but it kind of annoys you?
Don’t make disparaging comments, give disapproving glares, or discourage your spouse from holding on to a few things that you personally dislike.
Let him have it! If it get’s too time-consuming or addicting, talk to him about it.
But if it’s just one of your pet-peeves, work on yourself!
11.) Ask, “Is there anything I can do better in our relationship?”
Every once in a while, it is IMPORTANT to check in with your partner!
This gesture is vitally important and often so overlooked!
And if you struggle with constructive criticism, BREATH! You need to give your partner permission to let you know what you can improve on.
Often, important things never get said because neither of you want to start a fight or “stir the pot”.
You HAVE to have this conversation to improve your relationship. And when you ask him this question, encourage him to open up and tell all!
12.) Randomly Surprise Him With A Small Gift
It doesn’t have to be your man’s birthday for you to buy him a gift!
And it doesn’t have to be anything big – it may not even have to cost a dime!
Keep your ears open for little things that he mentions that he would like.
Maybe clean his car, buy him a watch, pick up his favorite dessert, or buy something cool off of Amazon!
13.) Write Him a Letter/Note
This isn’t just a girl thing! Men love hand-written notes, too.
A text is a satisfactory solution, but a hand-written note is far better!
Slip a note into his pocket or leave it in the car for him to find on his way to work.
Let him know that you love and deeply appreciate him. And let him know WHY!
List the things you love about him and all the effort he puts in around the house.
He needs to know that you still care about him!
14.) Take an Active interest in One of his hobbies
ACTIVE interest means that you need to get involved.
If he loves golfing, go out to the course with him. Even if you can’t play, at least you can be together.
It’s all about spending quality time together!
Make the effort and “give him some love” by showing an interest in the things he loves.
This doesn’t mean putting aside your interests! It just means that you want to support him and spend time with him.
15.) Hug him, kiss him, tell him you love him
…sounds like a country song! 🙂
But seriously, give the man some serious loving!
Start making this a habit.
Walk up to him and hug/kiss him! If he loves his head or back/shoulders rubbed, indulge him! Run your fingers through his hair and tell him that you love him.
Make a big deal of him – because he is a really big deal! He is the person you have chosen to spend your life with.
Let him know that he is your one and only and that you LOVE him!
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