In the beginning of every relationship, a certain level of connectivity is felt between two people.
Typically, in the early stages, the connection feels strong and unending. However, it is often not strong enough to encourage the relationship to last for the long-term.
When a genuine, deep connection is present, it isn’t too difficult to see over time. It lacks the shallow, self-serving qualities that other relationships possess (often hidden under a facade of care and flattery).
In the beginning, it may feel like a normal relationship. You may be “testing the waters” and “taking it slow”. However, over time, you will notice the difference.
It may be in the little things that are done on a daily basis, creating an environment of love and trust – two qualities that help create a lasting relationship.
Below are 7 habits of couples who are deeply connected to each other.
1.) You feel free to share intimate knowledge about yourself
No, this is not talking about getting in a “talkative mood” and telling some hidden secrets about yourself and regretting it later! (It happens to the best of us)
This is talking about feeling completely free and uninhibited to open up about something that you rarely tell anyone.
In healthy relationships, this deep level of communication will help build trust, respect, and a deeper understanding of each other.
Not only should these conversations increase your connectivity, but they should also allow the other person to understand your worldview, life choices, and even your personality.
As your relationship progresses, you will both find yourselves being able to tell what the other person is thinking before they even say it!
2.) There Is An Unexplained Feeling of Comfort When You are Together
This isn’t talking about the butterflies and giddy nerves. (Although that is always normal in the beginning)
This is referring to that feeling of “being home” when you are with your significant other.
They make you feel completely safe and contented with who you are and where you are at.
Perhaps when you first met, you felt like you’d known them your whole life! Or perhaps you had a deep urge to get to know them and keep them in your life.
Whatever the case is, you feel very comfortable being yourself when you are around them. And your soul just feels happy!
3.) You Don’t Doubt Your True Feelings For Them
Even when you get frustrated with each other, you don’t doubt your true feelings because you know they are real.
Too often in relationships, you find yourself doubting whether or not you truly love the other person.
But now, when you think about life without them, it seems pointless.
You can’t imagine not having them in your life because they are a part of who you are!
When you hear the term “your other half”, you know exactly what it means.
Your connection is so deep that only together do you feel complete.
4.) You Have Found A Way To Solve Problems Respectfully – Without Offense
When it comes to connectivity, problem resolution plays a key role!
Perhaps you have come to realize that you both react differently to obstacles, and you both need a chance to have your opinions heard in a respectful manner.
Yes, this includes the times when you feel like your significant other is 100% wrong.
Sometimes you need to talk out your differences immediately, while at other times you need to think it through for a few days.
The key is finding which method works for you, so you can continue to feel connected and unified.
Your whole relationship will take problem solving skills. Talk it through, work at it, and always try to find some common ground.
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5.) You Inspire Each Other to Become a better person
This may sound cliche, but it isn’t!
How many couples have you seen settle into their normal lives and stop improving anything about themselves? They stop setting goals and challenging themselves to improve at anything!
Often, this has to do with the person that they chose as their life’s partner. (Not always, but often.)
Your significant other should be your teammate, encourage, challenger, and friend.
They should be there to encourage you to accomplish bigger and better things. Unfortunately, many times all they do is make you doubt yourself and your dreams – all in the name of being a “realist”.
Sometimes, being a “better person” involves taking on LESS responsibility, slowing down, and learning to enjoy life.
In the end, you should feel like you have accomplished something that makes you feel proud of where you are heading.
6.) Your personalities just ‘Click’
As in – their weird matches your weird. You share a sense of humor. Your quirks don’t get on each other’s nerves.
You simply get each other!
When people see you together, do they say, “You guys belong together!” or “I never saw it before, but now I totally do!”
Other people’s approval isn’t necessary, but it does add a dash of validity to this point. Other people can see and feel your connectivity – sometimes even before you do.
It feels like you were created for each other. Somehow, your experiences and life choices have molded you both into the perfect life’s partner for each other.
7.) It is difficult to be apart from each other
In today’s society, many people are publicizing the idea that it is sometimes healthy to live partially separate lives.
They think that letting their partner know where they are is somehow infringing on their independence and privacy.
There is nothing “connective” about this concept!
Yes, of course everyone needs their own space, but you shouldn’t feel happy and relieved when you are apart from your significant other.
When you research habits of successful relationships, one of the key elements you will find is COMMUNICATION.
In a recent interview with actor John Krasinski, he mentioned how he traveled over 6,000 miles every single weekend to visit his wife and two little girls while filming the Amazon series “Jack Ryan” in Montreal. He said that family time is “non-negotiable” for him and he makes it an absolute priority in his life! His relationship with his wife means everything to him.
When you leave your significant other, you should feel rather saddened because you are leaving a piece of your heart behind.
Simply put, you miss them terribly! And as your relationship progresses, this feeling doesn’t go away and it doesn’t get any easier.
Having a deep connection makes you want to stay in touch with them – whether it is sending them texts, funny memes, or making a phone call.
Checking in is a wonderful way to create a secure and loving relationship – where connection can thrive!
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If you feel everything listed above, you are probably in a very connected relationship.
However, remember that BOTH OF YOU have to feel this way to create a lasting relationship.
If you do not feel these things, perhaps take a look at your lifestyle and see if there is anything hurting your relationship.
Otherwise, your relationship may not be created to last. It takes work and you must be committed to keeping your connection alive!