Do you believe in soulmates?
The belief that there is one person that you were destine to be with!
You meet and you just “click”. It’s like you were born to be together because you complete each other.
Sometimes, you’ll meet someone and THINK that it was meant to last forever. And then, all of a sudden, you start wondering if you were wrong.
You find yourself wondering, “Are we really meant to be? Are we really soulmates?”
Below are 7 signs you’re not with your soulmate, even if you thought you were at one point!
1.) YOU ARE CONSTANTLY EXPLAINING YOURSELF
You explain yourself so much that it is exhausting!
It’s like they don’t get your sense of humor or what you are REALLY like.
If you and your partner were a good match, there would be an undeniable understanding. THEY GET YOU!
You care for them, but the “soulmate” label just doesn’t seem to fit.
2.) YOU HAVE DIFFERENT LIFE VALUES
To have a soulmate bond, there has to be a similar value system!
Here are a few examples:
- One likes the pursuit of wealth & status, while the other craves simplicity
- One is religious, the other is not
- One person is a giver, the other is overly frugal
- One wants to travel, the other is a home-body
Do you feel like you both value the same things when it comes to what is REALLY IMPORTANT to you?
In the beginning you may have felt like you had a lot in common.
But as time goes by, do you notice more and more differences in values?
If you are truly soulmates, you will have a shared vision and similar value system!
3.) YOU DON’T FEEL SECURE WITH THEM
When you are with your soulmate, you will feel 100% secure in your relationship!
A lack of security is a clear sign that something is wrong.
Do you find yourself worrying about your future together? Do they have some bad habits that deeply concern you? Are you worried for your financial or physical safety – EVER?
You absolutely need to be in a committed and secure relationship if you want things to last. And you need to be on the same page!
4.) YOU PUT IN FAR MORE EFFORT THAN YOUR PARTNER
A relationship is always a two-way street.
Communication and constant effort are key!
If you are the only one who is putting in the effort and they just won’t chip in, you aren’t with your soulmate.
You’re supposed to be able to build a solid, steady, and enjoyable life with them! If they are acting like this already, imagine what another decade will look like?
Depressed, lonely, and empty. Don’t waste your time on someone who won’t put in the effort.
They’re not your soulmate or someone you want to built a life with.
5.) YOU’VE CHANGED – AND YOU DON’T LIKE IT
Change can sometimes be good!
If you are with your soulmate, you may have become a happier, stronger, and confident person.
But have you changed for the worse?
Do your friends and family warn you that you have changed? Are they concerned for you?
Do you find yourself making excuses for the way you have allowed your partner to change you?
If you can’t completely relax around your partner and completely be your TRUE SELF, you may not be in a healthy, long-term relationship.
It’s normal not to be fully yourself in the beginning of your relationship. But if your partner is trying to mold you into the person they WANT you to be, they aren’t your soulmate.
They’re just manipulative and controlling.
6.) YOU DON’T FULLY TRUST THEM
A soulmate is someone you can trust with every fiber of your being!
You trust them with everything: your reputation, finances, past hurt, and future happiness.
If you have a sick feeling in the pit of your stomach that they are doing something behind your back, address it ASAP!
Are you an overly suspicious person or are they not someone you can trust? You need to come to terms with one of these facts.
If they are a liar or if they have hidden significant facts from you, they aren’t your soulmate.
Whatever your suspicions are right now, you need to communicate them before you waste any more time!
7.) YOU IMAGINE YOURSELF WITH SOMEONE ELSE
When you are with your soulmate, you are 100% secure in the fact that you are meant to be together forever.
It’s like a connection that can never be undone!
But if you can sit back and imagine them NOT being in your life and you feel a sense of peace, they aren’t your soulmate.
Do you wish you weren’t in a relationship with them? Do you imagine dating someone else? Do you wish you could get back into the “dating game”?
RED FLAGS EVERYWHERE!
It is impossible to have a healthy relationship, while you are still thinking these things.
Either you are a cheater or you are not with your soulmate!
If you are with the person you are meant to be with for the rest of your life, you will not be able to imagine your life without them.
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