Dating someone new is absolutely exciting!
Everything in life looks brighter and you feel more alive than ever!
But there is a point where your infatuation can become too intense. Sometimes an unhealthy dependency can grow, creating an unhealthy environment for your relationship.
A confident woman needs to acknowledge that there are healthy boundaries that need to be maintained!
Emotional dependency is unhealthy for your mental and emotional health!
Below are 7 things confident women do differently in relationships.
1.) THEY LIKE THEMSELVES FIRST
This tip is so crucial!
If you walk into a relationship feeling like you “need someone” to make you whole, you may end up lowering your standards too much.
You know the saying, “Good things happen to those who wait”?
Well, good things can also happen to those who don’t settle down with the first or second person who comes along.
You are valuable! You are precious! And if you doubt these things, don’t listen to yourself.
Pay close attention to the people you attract to yourself. When you are confident in who YOU are, you will attract people who don’t want to change you.
If you feel like you are in a “bad place”, get some help before entering into a relationship with someone else.
2.) THEY KNOW THEIR NON-NEGOTIABLES
Most people enter a relationship with an “idea” of the person they want to be with.
But what happens when your new love-interest is very different than you originally thought?
This situation can be very good or very bad, depending on what they are “different” in!
You need to enter your relationship with a firm list of absolute non-negotiable.
What happens when you find out that person lied to you about their past?
What happens when they tell you about an addiction problem?
How do you respond when you discover a toxic habit that makes you uncomfortable?
If it is something you can confront and work through with them, you’ll have to decide whether the relationship is worth it or not.
But if this person has done something that is on your “ABSOLUTELY NON-NEGOTIABLE” list, you need to stick by it.
Think about the future. Is the relationship really worth saving? Is this person someone you are willing to take a big risk on? Will this impact your self-respect and sense of value?
Breaking up will hurt! Leaving them behind will kill!
But think about the future pain you will feel with someone who has the tendencies to go against everything you once held valuable in a relationship.
3.) THEY DON’T TOLERATE FOOLISHNESS
Like point #2, you should have a good knowledge of what constitutes foolishness!
Here are some common foolish problems that a lot of women have had to endure.
- Flirting with other girls
- Talking down to you – even in a joking way
- Raising their voice when upset (not OK, at all!)
- Using you as the brunt of their jokes
- Making you doubt yourself and your goals
- Hiding their phone from you
Don’t explain away foolish behavior! If it is happening right in front of you, don’t make excuses for them!
Confront it immediately!
As TV personality Steve Harvey says, “Don’t get into the bad habit of collecting red flags! Pretty soon you’ll have a whole wagon full of them and still be making excuses for his bad behavior!”
Confront it or get out.
4.) THEY DON’T PLAY HARD TO GET
You aren’t in highschool anymore.
If you want a good, mature man in your life, you need to act like a good, mature woman!
Playing “hard to get” is for children!
If a kind, respectable, mature man wants to take you out on a date or pursue you, don’t give him mixed signals!
In his mind, he will realize that you are not interested in him OR you are an immature drama-queen who wants to play with him!
A confident woman knows that she is valuable! She treats herself with respect and doesn’t play cat-and-mouse games to get attention.
If you like someone, don’t be afraid to show it!
Accept and encourage their pursuit of you. Have fun, but be serious about your intent to find someone that you are compatible with.
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5.) THEY DON’T NEED CONSTANT ATTENTION
…it’s also called hovering!
Constantly texting, calling, commenting on social media, etc.
If you are in a healthy relationship with someone who is trustworthy, you do NOT need to stay in constant contact with him to make sure that he is thinking of you.
You are valuable and he should know it! It isn’t YOUR job to make the relationship successful. It’s a two-way street!
If you LOVE quality time and communicating, then you may need to force yourself to pump the breaks on constantly contacting them.
Give your partner room to breath! It is healthy to have some space and time alone in your relationship.
6.) THEY MAINTAIN THEIR FRIENDSHIPS
In the beginning stages of every relationship, it’s so easy to become totally engulfed in it!
Little by little, you’ll find yourself in the position of depending on the relationship to fulfill your needs for happiness and connection.
What happened to your family and friends? You kinda “ditched” them!
Don’t let this common relationship problem happen! You NEED your family and friends.
They will tell you things about yourself, your relationship, and your partner that you aren’t able to see. There is nothing like a healthy “outside opinion” from someone who loves you and wants what is best for you.
They’ll be there to let you know when you have made a bad decision. They’ll be there to support you through thick or thin. And they’ll be there to love (or hate) your new partner!
Don’t ever ditch your family and friends! Your life needs moderation and balance. Also, if your relationship doesn’t work out, you’ll NEED your loved ones to help you get back on your feet!
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7.) THEY DON’T ALLOW THEMSELVES TO GET JEALOUS
Jealousy is something you can ALLOW into your relationship.
First of all, every relationship has a healthy amount of jealousy. You know, the kind that says, “Get your hands off my man!”
But if you allow insecurity to take control of your relationship, you will start to compare yourself to other women and other relationships.
OTHER PEOPLE will become the target of your jealousy. In reality, they could be fun and supportive pals!
In some relationships, it is the partner’s fault because they encourage your jealousy!
They tell you stories that purposefully incite jealousy and make you feel insecure and competitive with other people.
If this toxic behavior is a part of your relationship, dump him!
You don’t need an insecure loser in your life that thrives on stirring up insecurity and unnecessary jealousy inside of you.
Be confident in yourself! You will be worth so much to someone some day. You deserve more!
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Being confident in yourself takes consistent effort and self-discipline.
It is so easy to allow harmful influences and self-doubt into your life. Don’t allow this to happen because of a toxic romantic relationship!
Surround yourself with people who empower you to make healthy life choices and have a strong sense of self-respect.
This way, you’ll attract attention from people who know that you are not someone to “play games” with. You are intentional and mature!